When the news of a new arrival reaches us, it is the question “when can we see them” that comes up in to our minds. Although the new mother and baby are flattered about your attention on them, remember that they need some time off and for themselves. Right after giving birth, the mother will be very tired not only for that day, but for a few more. She will be tired mostly afterwards too, as the baby will keep her up most of the day and night.
What not to do
Do not visit so soon after bringing the baby home. You maybe impatient but the whole family will be quite tired. Also when you are finally there, don’t comment unnecessarily; on how she looks now and how Melbourne newborn photography was way much better, how the baby looks, if it is too skinny or doesn’t have any hair and so on. Also do not try to advise her on what you underwent. Perhaps your baby didn’t cry as much hers does, but it’s not a consolation to announce it to everyone. Try avoiding criticizing as well. Some people do tings one way, others do them in another way. There is no universal correct way of holding the baby or bathing it; you just have to make sure the baby doesn’t get squashed.
What to do
Call first! If not the mother, someone else. Do make sure it is ok to visit. Do be happy with how you are treated, you cannot expect them to be hospitable as they used to be. Do clean your hands and make sure you did not carry anything with a lot of germs if you want to hold the baby. Take care when you hold it and don’t kiss the baby a lot. For one, parents might not like it, and another is that by kissing baby could catch some ailment you might have hidden, or germs can be transferred.
What to take
People fret over what to take for the newborns and then decide, sometimes, on unwise selections. If the baby is very young, only a few weeks, toys might not be an ideal choice. Toiletries will be in abundance; however, they will be finishing frequently. But do be careful of any brand preferences of parents. You might want to talk to them and make a buying decision. Good choices will be a savings account or perhaps some jewelry. However, again, the parents must be ok with receiving personal items such as jewelry. If you are very close family, it wouldn’t look weird, but if you are just a colleague, maybe eyebrows will be raised. A good gift might be a voucher to hire a maternity photographer Melbourne, if you are undecided.
We all would like to see a new arrival as soon as possible. However we must remember that our presence can have good as well as harmful results.